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What to expect when returning home from deployment???

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Alyson Bailey September 15th, 2011

Husband will soon (approx 2 months) home from an 9 month deployment. He's only been home for a whopping 18 days and that's not even including duty days. Feel so bad for the guy. He such a hard worker. With this deployment being our first, so far. Besides deployment, majority of 2010 he was away at school, and OCS schooling. And my apologies for venting. But i think it was after finding out just recently that his ship is being delayed for a little longer than expected. I broke down when I was alone and just cried. Mind you, I've been handling it all so well, have continued to be supportive, even though i can feel him slowly drifting away. So now I'm somewhat at a stand still with myself as to, after so much "single" living along with so much time apart from each other. He's going to want to continue life that way. Rather than return to the man I love & admire. When I've asked how things are or when I pointed out changes in mood or what have you. And nothing! What do I do? I'm so over thinking it's me...


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Audrey Parker-Quinlan October 11th, 2011

I think because the time you have spent on your own you may be over thinking it a little. The time spent apart is different for each of you. .I share some of the fears you do. My husband is stationed in Korea. He was sent there two weeks after basic training. All in all we have spent close to three weeks together in the last nine months. It hurts for me to think that he lives everyday without me. I know he thinks about me but he has a schedule that keeps him busy. Constantly pushing him forward everyday. And everyday I hope to catch him online. I don't know if anything I have to say helps, but I just wanted you to know that I understand your frustrations.


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AMY HOLBROOK November 8th, 2011

Being apart is hard. My dad was deployed numerous times and I am dating a guy in OK right now I know that he isnt deployed but the frustration is about the same of not being able to see him and touch him its hard but when he comes home it will be the best thing ever. Believe me he misses you just as much as you miss him he probably just doesnt want to worry you about knowing that he misses you. It will be ok and you will see it when he comes home

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