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Helping kids cope with deployment separations

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Jerilyn Marler June 16th, 2011

I wrote "Lily Hates Goodbyes" for my four-year-old granddaughter who was reeling from the pain of her Daddy’s time away in the Navy. She was deep in denial about the scary feelings, yet her behavior clearly showed that she was in turmoil. She would run from the room instead of talk about feelings. So I wrote the book to give us a “third person” to talk about. Book Lily was mad. Book Lily was sad. Suddenly it wasn’t so scary for Real Lily to talk about those feelings. She asked me to read the book to her over and over. She even wanted me to sing it to her.

The result is exactly what I hoped for: Lily’s more at ease with her emotions, knows what she can do when she feels them, knows that it’s safe to say whatever she feels, knows that her Mommy will be there steadfastly and lovingly by her side through it all, and that there is a joyful reunion coming with her Daddy.

Kids love it. They totally get what Lily goes through; they relate. And the book gives them a way to start talking about their feelings. I fervently hope that this book will help your child through the long, difficult separations, too.


author: "Lily Hates Goodbyes"
A book especially for military children

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